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Deleting Your Victim Mentality

Updated: Apr 7, 2021

For this week's podcast episode, I decided to invite my first ever guest Kevin Nahai. A little bit of background on Kevin, in 2011 when he was only 19 years old he was suddenly diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder of the stomach called Ulcerative Colitis. Ulcerative Colitis is a chronic disease of the stomach that caused him to have numerous symptoms including profuse bleeding, major levels of fatigue, and to be unable to eat. One of the hardest parts, he says, was being told by his doctor that this disease was incurable. At his all time low, Kevin fell into a deep depression, became severely anorexic, and came close to losing his life. He suffered through anxiety, toxic relationships, and lack of self confidence and direction.

A topic that Kevin holds close to his heart is the subject of having a victim mentality. Kevin struggled with this severely when he was diagnosed, as it was so easy to play the victim with such a severe disease "holding him back" from success. But, Kevin learned on his own through this journey that playing the victim only brought more stress and pain into his life. After years of failing his way to success, Kevin was miraculously able to transform his life and become a public speaker/life coach. By pulling himself out of that mental state, and changing his mentality, Kevin was able to completely transform his life and now speaks publicly about the topic on a variety of platforms including Youtube, Instagram, various podcasts, and live. "Everyday, I choose to transform my experience to help others overcome their biggest challenges by providing the real, practical tools and solutions I have acquired" - Kevin Nahai.

This week, I wanted to have Kevin on the show to really go into depth about his story, and how the victim mentality needs to be overcome not only in himself, but in me, you, and everyone out there listening. What a victim mentality is, is no matter what the situation, you always see yourself as the victim. The wrong doing always happens to you. Everything is everybody else's faults. I always get screwed over, I am so nice. I always get taken advantage of, I am so naive. etc. It is always somebody else's fault.

While you may be a nice person, and you may be naive, or whatever the case may be, using these traits to victimize yourself and let life happen to you is NOT going to bring success into your life. What makes you an actually amazing person is TAKING RESPONSIBILITY. Despite the challenge or struggle, you need to view it as an opportunity to change your life direction.

As Kevin says in one of his YouTube videos "The Secret of SUCCESS: Drop the VICTIM Mentality," he has studied through a variety of books and podcasts how some of the most successful people have attained their wealth and happiness. One of the top contributors to their success is that they never make excuses. They take full responsibility to own up to mistakes and change it. If something truly isn't their fault, they learn how to embrace or accept the fact and take accountability so that they don't stay stuck in a bad position. They don't view themselves as a victim, but rather an agent of change.

Stop thinking that the world is out to get you, and stop defeating yourself. No matter what happens, you have the ability to get what you want. Take responsibility, step up, make changes not excuses. My mentor on my real estate team Susan Johnson and Associates once said to me "You can have excuses or you can have results, you can't have both." That hit me, hard. I can make excuses until the end of the day but if that is how I choose to go about living my life, I will never reach the results and success that I desire. For more information on this topic I HIGHYL encourage you to check out this week's podcast episode #5 "Deleting YOUR Victim Mentality" and here Kevin and I speak out about the affects your mentality has on success. Change your mentality and success will start showing in abundance.



<--- Don't be that guy ;)

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